Strap-On Dildos

By how it is worn

The first decision is how the toy stays on. That one choice changes everything from fit to how you move.

Harness-mounted

A flared-base shaft that seats into a belt or O-ring harness worn around the hips. The straps keep the toy anchored while you thrust, so both hands stay free. Adjustable straps mean one harness can be dialled to a range of body sizes, and the fit can be tightened or loosened without taking it off.

Strapless

A wearable design with no harness at all. A built-in keel sits inside the wearer and a stretchable band wraps the hips, holding the shaft in place on its own. It is quick to put on and take off, but the fit depends on body size, so check the waist and hip range before you choose.

Double-ended

Two shafts share one harness, usually a longer slim end and a shorter, fuller end. Both partners can be penetrated at once, or swap ends to trade depth for girth. The adjustable harness keeps both ends seated while you move.

By shaft material

Material sets how the shaft feels and how carefully you have to clean it, especially when more than one partner shares it. For the full picture, our dildo materials guide walks through the options.

Silicone

Non-porous and body-safe, so it is the easier material to keep hygienic and the better default when a toy is shared between partners. It feels soft and skin-like, needs only soap and water, and pairs with water-based lubricant. Avoid silicone-based lube, which can bond to the surface.

TPE

Softer and often more affordable, with a very lifelike give. TPE is porous, so it needs a wash and a complete dry after every use, and a condom is a good idea if the toy passes between partners. Use only water-based lubricant, and never boil the shaft.

By sensation

Within the same fit, the shaft can deliver different kinds of stimulation.

Realistic texture

A non-motorised shaft that leans on lifelike detailing: a sculpted head, textured veins, and a skin-tone finish. The sensation comes from shape and movement rather than a motor, which suits people who want a natural, hands-on feel.

Vibrating / electric

A built-in motor adds vibration to the shaft while you stay hands-free. The vibration can target the G-spot while the base works against the clitoris, giving a dual-point sensation without holding anything. Keep any rechargeable parts out of water.

Before use

Fit the harness first. Loosen all the straps, step in or wrap the belt, then tighten until it sits snug but not tight; you should be able to slide a finger under each strap. Position the flared base so it rests against the pelvis, not off to one side, and check that the shaft is seated firmly in the ring. A strapless design needs no harness, but the built-in keel and band still need a moment to position correctly. Apply water-based lubricant to the shaft and to your partner; water-based lube is the safe match for both silicone and TPE shafts. Before a session, agree on roles and a signal for slowing down, since a strap-on gives the wearer most of the control. Check that the toy is clean and dry from its last use.

During use

Start slow and let the receiving partner set the pace, especially the first time. The harness keeps the shaft steady, so the wearer's hands stay free to guide, hold their partner, or shift position mid-session. That is the point of the design: you adjust rhythm rather than constantly re-seating the toy. On a double-ended strap-on, you can swap ends to trade a deeper slim shaft for a fuller one without reconfiguring the straps. If the shaft slips or the harness rides up, pause and tighten the straps rather than pushing through. Keep lubricant nearby and reapply if anything feels dry. Communicate throughout; if the receiving partner feels discomfort, stop and adjust the angle rather than forcing depth.

Cleaning and storage

Clean every part after use, because a strap-on is more than a shaft. Wash a silicone shaft with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner; silicone can also be boiled for a deeper clean. A TPE shaft gets the same soap-and-water wash but cannot be boiled, and it must dry completely before storage, since trapped moisture causes odour and mould. Wipe a PU leather or nylon harness with a damp cloth rather than soaking it, and keep it away from direct heat. Rechargeable or electric parts stay out of water. Store the dildo and harness separately from other toys, ideally in a breathable pouch or the original packaging, so materials do not press together and degrade.