Couples who play with toys together report higher relationship satisfaction. That finding, from a 2025 study of 11,944 adults across six European countries, is why this page exists: toys are not a substitute for a partner, they are equipment a partnership uses, and the pairs who use them score higher on satisfaction overall (Hald, Pavan & Øverup, Journal of Sex Research, 2025).
The behaviour is more common than the marketing lets on, too. In the same study, a majority of toy owners, more than 55%, said they used toys both alone and with a steady partner, versus only 10 to 15% who used them with casual partners. And it is not a gendered thing: in a US national survey, 40.9% of women who owned a vibrator had used one during partnered sex (Herbenick et al., 2009), and a companion survey found roughly 45% of men had used a vibrator, most often during foreplay with a partner (Reece et al., 2009).
This is a list of ten specific ways to do it, each mapped to a real product type rather than a vague category. Pick one, try it, move on.
Key Takeaways
- In a 2025 study of 11,944 adults across six countries, more than 55% of toy owners used toys with a steady partner, and those who did reported higher relationship satisfaction (Hald, Pavan & Øverup)
- 40.9% of women vibrator owners in a US national survey had used one during partnered sex; ~45% of men had used a vibrator, usually in foreplay (Herbenick et al.; Reece et al.)
- Remote and app-controlled toys are the highest-leverage first purchase for couples: one partner hands over control, and distance stops mattering
- Every idea below maps to a body-safe, discreet-shipping product from our catalogue. Start with one, not all ten
If you are new to this whole category, start with our beginner’s guide to sex toys. It covers materials and safety, which this page assumes you already have a handle on.
Table of contents
- 1. Hand over the controls with a remote egg
- 2. Go long-distance with an app-controlled couple’s toy
- 3. Wear a couple’s vibrator during intercourse
- 4. Add a vibrating cock ring
- 5. Change the fit with a penis sleeve
- 6. Swap roles with a strap-on
- 7. Share a double-ended dildo
- 8. Blend it with a rabbit or dual vibrator
- 9. Explore anal play together
- 10. Upgrade the lubrication, not just the toy
- How we picked these
- Frequently asked questions
1. Hand over the controls with a remote egg
The best first couple’s purchase is a remote-controlled egg or bullet, and the reason is the power dynamic rather than the toy itself. One partner wears it, the other holds the remote, and the arousal comes from not knowing when the next pulse lands. No solo toy produces that.
An egg is small, insertable or wearable against the body, and quiet enough for discreet use, which makes it the lowest-commitment entry point on this list. Its trade-off is range: simple radio remotes work across a room but not across a city, so if distance is the goal, skip to the next item.
Our remote-controlled vibrating egg is the classic version, and the Whale Tide couples vibrator adds a dual-head design so the vibration is shared rather than one-sided.
Remote and wearable toys change who is in control, not just what is vibrating. A remote egg handed across the table is the fastest way to turn a solo product into a couple’s activity, and it requires no technique from either partner.
2. Go long-distance with an app-controlled couple’s toy
App-controlled toys solve a problem a remote cannot: they pair with a phone over the internet, so one partner can drive the other’s toy from another country. For couples separated by travel, distance, or a visa process, this is the only category that genuinely collapses the gap.
The mechanics matter more than the marketing. Look for a model that pairs over the app reliably, charges via USB, and lets the distant partner control patterns and intensity in real time rather than sending pre-set loops. That last distinction is what makes it feel like presence rather than a recording.
Our app-controlled dual vibrator and app-controlled egg both do this. If you have never used a connected toy, expect a one-time pairing step, then the app does the rest.
3. Wear a couple’s vibrator during intercourse
The category literally named for couples is the wearable vibrator: one arm sits internally, another rests against the clitoris, and the whole thing stays in place during penetrative sex so both partners feel the vibration. It answers a real anatomical gap: only about 18% of women orgasm from penetration alone (Herbenick et al., Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 2017).
It earns a spot here because it makes clitoral stimulation hands-free during the act, which is exactly when a handheld bullet keeps getting dropped. The caveat is fit: a wearable couples vibrator that suits one body may sit wrong on another, so this is a category where the shape matters more than the brand.
Our Whale Tide couples vibrator and dual clit-sucker vibrator cover the two ends of this: one wearable, one for simultaneous clitoral and internal stimulation.
4. Add a vibrating cock ring
A cock ring is the cheapest, quietest upgrade to partnered sex that exists. The basic version restricts blood flow to maintain firmness; the vibrating version adds a motor that presses against the clitoris during penetration, so the ring is doing work for both partners at once. No other toy in this list delivers shared stimulation at this price.
Two rules keep it safe rather than a problem. First, a hard time limit: rings are for minutes, not hours, and if anything turns cold, blue, or painful, it comes off immediately. Second, material that stretches: body-safe silicone with give, never a rigid metal ring for a first purchase.
Our vibrating cock ring and rose vibrating ring are both silicone, rechargeable, and quiet. For the full category, see our penis rings explained.
5. Change the fit with a penis sleeve
A penis sleeve slides over the shaft to add girth, length, or texture, and it is one of the few couples products where both partners feel the difference immediately and equally. For a partner who enjoys fullness, it changes sensation without changing partners; for the wearer, the interior texture can add its own layer.
The material is the thing to interrogate here. A sleeve is usually TPE, which is porous and cannot be sterilised, so it is the one category where the sensible play is a condom over it and water-based lubricant, every time. If a listing will not name its material, walk away. The full framework is in our beginner’s guide.
Our realistic penis sleeve is the straightforward option, and the 3-in-1 couple sleeve set gives you three sizes to find the right fit.
6. Swap roles with a strap-on
A strap-on is the most versatile toy on this list because it removes anatomy from the equation entirely. Either partner can wear it, which opens up positions and role play that a specific body type otherwise dictates. It is also the honest answer for couples where penetration is the goal but a strap-on, rather than a harness-free assumption, is what makes it work.
Buy the harness and the dildo as two separate decisions, because they do different jobs. The harness should fit securely without pinching; the dildo should be body-safe silicone with a flared base. Our adjustable harness fits most sizes, and the wearable strap-on and double-ended strap-on cover the two common play styles.
7. Share a double-ended dildo
A double-ended dildo is exactly what it sounds like: two insertable ends, built for two people at once. It is the least talked-about couples toy and, for simultaneous penetration, the simplest one that works. There is no motor to charge, no app to pair, no remote to lose.
The note worth making is that it rewards coordination more than any other item here: you are moving together, so the rhythm is a conversation. Start slow, use more lubricant than you think, and let one person set the pace.
Our double-ended strap-on dildo is silicone and body-safe, which is the non-negotiable for anything this shared.
8. Blend it with a rabbit or dual vibrator
A rabbit or dual-stimulation vibrator combines internal penetration with external clitoral contact at the same time, which is what most people actually need to reach orgasm. In one study, 36.6% of women said they needed direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, versus 18% who got there from penetration alone (Herbenick et al., 2017). A rabbit delivers both, and it works as well held by a partner during foreplay as it does solo.
The trade-off is fit: a rabbit is anatomy-specific, so one that suits one body may miss on another. If you are buying as a couple, pick it together and be honest about what lines up.
Our waterproof rabbit vibrator is the dual-motor classic, and the dual clit-sucker swaps the vibrating arm for air-pulse if direct vibration feels too intense.
9. Explore anal play together
Anal play is the category couples most often want to try and least often know how to start, which is why the right first purchase is a training set rather than anything ambitious. A set of graduated plugs lets both partners go at the body’s pace, and the flared base is the safety rule that never bends.
The non-negotiable is lubricant, and a lot of it, because the tissue here does not self-lubricate. The second rule is pace: if it hurts, stop. It should feel like pressure, not pain, and anyone telling you to push through is wrong.
Our anal plug training set is the safe starting point, and the vibrating anal plug adds a motor once the basics are comfortable.
10. Upgrade the lubrication, not just the toy
The most overlooked couples upgrade is the thing you put on everything else. Lubricant changes the feel of every toy on this list, and the choice is a chemical compatibility decision, not just a comfort one: water-based is compatible with every material, while silicone-based lubricant bonds to and degrades silicone toys.
For couples, a warming or sensation lubricant is the cheap way to make an old routine feel new without buying a new product. The caveat is sensitivity: warming formulas are not for everyone, and if it stings, that is your answer.
Our water-based lubricant is the universal default, and the hot sensation lubricant is the couple’s upgrade for when comfort is not the point.
How we picked these
This is a research-only list, not a hands-on testing claim. We picked ten play styles that map to a real product in our catalogue, then filtered each by three criteria: body-safe material, a use case that stands up to the “what is this actually for” question, and something a couple can start without a manual.
What we did not do is rank products by power, noise, or price, because those vary by model and a listicle that pretends otherwise is guessing. Every product linked above names its material on the listing, and if you want the material framework behind that sentence, it lives in our beginner’s guide.
One disclosure: we sell these products. This list is self-serving in the literal sense, which is why each entry gives you an honest downside next to the upside. If a toy is not for you, the downside is the part that saves you money.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best sex toy for a couple just starting out?
A remote-controlled egg or a vibrating cock ring. Both are cheap, quiet, body-safe in silicone, and require no technique from either partner. The egg wins if you want to hand over control; the ring wins if you want shared stimulation during sex. Skip the app-controlled and wearable categories until you know you both like the dynamic.
Do sex toys improve a relationship?
The strongest available evidence points that way, with one caveat about direction. In a 2025 study of 11,944 adults across six countries, people who used toys with a partner more frequently reported higher relationship satisfaction (Hald, Pavan & Øverup). The authors note the causation runs both ways: healthier couples may simply be more likely to explore together, since it requires communication and planning. What is clear is that they travel together.
Can long-distance couples really use toys together?
Yes, and this is the one category where the technology genuinely closes the gap. App-controlled toys pair with a phone over the internet, so a partner in another country controls patterns and intensity in real time. Look for a model that lets the distant partner control live rather than send pre-set loops, and expect a one-time pairing step before it works.
Are couple’s toys safe to use?
The same material rule applies as every other toy: body-safe silicone, water-based lubricant, and a flared base for anything anal. The one addition is the cock ring time limit, which is minutes, not hours. Every product in this list names its material; the full safety framework is in our beginner’s guide.
Do you deliver couple’s toys discreetly in the UAE?
Yes. Every order ships in plain, unbranded packaging with no indication of contents, and cash on delivery is available across the UAE so no card statement records the purchase. See how discreet delivery works for the exact process.
The short version
Ten ways, one through-line: a toy stops being a solo product the moment the control, the fit, or the focus becomes shared.
- Start with control. A remote egg or vibrating ring is the cheapest, lowest-risk way to learn the dynamic.
- Distance is solved. App-controlled toys let one partner drive from another country.
- Match the toy to the gap. Wearable and rabbit vibrators close the orgasm gap that penetration alone leaves open.
- Material before features, always. Silicone, water-based lubricant, flared bases for anal.
- Buy one, not ten. The couples who report the most satisfaction are the ones who communicate, not the ones with the biggest drawer.
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Sources
- Hald GM, Pavan S, Øverup CS, Do Sex Toys Make Me Satisfied? The Use of Sex Toys in Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Finland, Germany and the Netherlands, The Journal of Sex Research, 2025 (DOI 10.1080/00224499.2024.2304575), retrieved 2026-09-04, https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2024.2304575 — n=11,944; convenience sample, retailer-funded; >55% used toys with a steady partner, 10–15% with casual partners
- Herbenick D, Reece M, Sanders S, Dodge B, Ghassemi A, Fortenberry JD, Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Women in the United States, Journal of Sexual Medicine 6(7):1857–1866, 2009, retrieved 2026-09-04, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19453881/ — 52.5% used a vibrator; 40.9% of users during partnered sex
- Reece M, Herbenick D, Sanders S, Dodge B, Ghassemi A, Fortenberry JD, Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Men in the United States, Journal of Sexual Medicine 6(7):1867–1874, 2009, retrieved 2026-09-04, https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/6/7/1867/6834403 — ~45% of men reported vibrator use
- Herbenick D, Fu TJ, Arter J, Sanders SA, Dodge B, Women’s Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm, Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 44(2):201–212, 2017, retrieved 2026-09-04, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28678639/ — 18% orgasm from penetration alone; 36.6% need clitoral stimulation