Lesbian Dildos

By wearing style

The wearing system is the core decision. It separates these toys from a handheld dildo and shapes how the two of you position and move. If you are new to shared toys, the guide to couples sex toys lists the most common ways partners play together.

Harness strap-on

A belt or PU leather harness wraps around the wearer and holds the shaft in place, leaving both hands free to guide or hold a partner. This is the most stable option for active play, because the harness keeps the dildo seated even as you move. Some harness models add an electric motor that drives G-spot and clitoral vibration without any hand adjustment, and the flared base keeps depth under control.

Strapless wearable

A strapless wearable skips the belt entirely. A built-in keel sits inside the wearer while a stretchable band wraps around the waist and hips, so the toy stays put on its own. It is quick to put on and take off and removes buckles and straps from the equation. Because there is no harness between you, the two partners stay closer, which many couples find more intimate.

Double-ended

A double-ended strap-on carries two insertable ends on one harness, so one partner wears one end while the other receives the other. The two ends often differ in size, one slimmer and longer for depth and one fuller for girth, which lets partners swap which side they take. It is the clearest choice when both partners want to feel penetration at the same time.

By material and feel

Two materials dominate this category, and they demand different care routines.

Realistic TPE

TPE is soft, flexible, and warms to body temperature, which gives it a forgiving, skin-like feel. The trade-off is that TPE is porous, so it needs a rinse with warm water and mild soap after every use, thorough drying, and water-based lubricant only, since silicone-based lube can degrade the surface. It is the more affordable material and appears on several harness and double-ended models.

Premium liquid silicone

Liquid silicone is the higher-end option. It is body-safe, non-porous, odourless, and skin-friendly, and it is often waterproof, so a strapless wearable can join you in the shower and rinse clean under a tap. Silicone stays hygienic more easily than TPE and keeps its shape through use. If you want a toy that lasts and is simple to clean, silicone is the stronger choice.

Harness material

The harness itself matters too. PU leather and nylon straps sit against the skin, so they should hold firm without digging in. Wider straps, up to 5cm, spread pressure across the hips for a snug fit. PU leather wipes clean with a damp cloth and should not be soaked, while the dildo shaft is cleaned separately after each session.

By fit and weight

How a toy fits and how heavy it feels change the whole session, so check these details before you buy.

Adjustable straps

A strap-on only works if it stays where you put it, so look for adjustable straps that both partners can tighten to a secure fit. Adjustability is what makes one harness suit different body sizes rather than a fixed setup. It also means the toy holds through movement instead of slipping mid-session, which keeps the focus on rhythm rather than re-seating the shaft.

Waist and hip sizing

For strapless wearables, check the stated fit range before buying. These bands are sized by waist and hip measurement, for example around 52–81cm at the waist and 74–89cm at the hips, and they are typically suited to a specific weight range. If your measurements fall inside the band's range, it will hug securely without a harness. If not, a belt-style harness is the more flexible choice.

Weight and length

Weight changes how a session feels. A 16g strap-on sits light and does not pull the harness down, while a 243g double-ended kit has more presence but stays light enough for long play. Length and girth also matter: shafts in this range run roughly 18–19cm with diameters from 2.8cm to 4.6cm, so a smaller diameter suits beginners and a fuller shaft suits experienced pairs.

Before use

Start by fitting the harness or band to the wearer, not the receiver. Tighten adjustable straps so the base sits snugly against the body without pinching, and for a strapless wearable check that the waist and hip band hugs within its stated range. Choose a lubricant that matches the shaft: water-based lube is the safe universal choice, and it is essential for TPE, which silicone-based lube can degrade. Apply lube generously to the shaft and to whoever is receiving, and agree on a signal to pause or adjust before you begin.

During use

Take it slow and let the receiver set the pace and angle. With a harness, the wearer steers with their hips rather than their hands, so positions where you face each other feel most natural. On a double-ended model, swap which partner takes the longer or fuller end until the combination feels right. Talk through what feels good and adjust together; if anything is uncomfortable, stop, add lubricant, and reposition. The hands-free design means you can hold, guide, and support each other the whole time.

Cleaning and storage

Clean the shaft after every use. Rinse TPE with warm water and mild soap, then let it air dry fully, because porous TPE traps moisture. Liquid silicone is easier: it is non-porous and often waterproof, so it rinses clean under a tap. Wipe a PU leather or nylon harness with a damp cloth rather than soaking it, and keep any electric parts away from water. Store the dildo and harness separately in a breathable pouch, and dust TPE with a little renewal powder if the surface turns tacky.