Ownership is the majority experience. In a 2024 study of 11,944 adults across six European countries, most respondents in every country said they owned or had owned a sex toy, and dildos and vibrators were the most commonly owned types (Hald, Pavan & Øverup, Journal of Sex Research, 2024). In the UK sample, vibrator ownership reached roughly 80%.
What hasn’t caught up is the buying experience. Search for a dildo in Dubai and you get hundreds of near-identical products, with the one specification that actually affects your health, the material, compressed into a single word on the listing. Add the privacy math of a shared apartment, and most first-time buyers either freeze or guess.
This guide removes the guessing. Materials with regulator evidence behind them, shapes explained by what they do, concrete first-size numbers, and the cleaning science almost nobody publishes.
Key Takeaways
- Owning a sex toy is the statistical norm, not the exception: majorities in six European countries, 52.5% of US women in a national survey. No equivalent Gulf data exists; the physiology transfers
- Material is the decision that matters. Danish regulators found phthalates in 10 of 15 sex toys tested, one at 70% of the product’s weight (Danish EPA, 2006). Non-porous silicone, glass, and steel can be sterilised; porous materials can’t, at any price
- In one pilot study, a porous TPE toy still carried detectable HPV DNA 24 hours after cleaning; the silicone toy carried none (Anderson et al., 2014, n=12)
- First size: at or below the anatomical average, 13.1 cm long, 11.7 cm around (Veale et al., 2015, n=15,521). Girth is the number to get right
- Water-based lubricant is the default for a measured reason: most commercial lubricants run 5–15 times the osmolality the WHO considers ideal
If you’re wondering about the legal picture in the UAE specifically, that’s a separate subject with its own nuances, covered properly in our guide to UAE sex toy laws and enforcement reality. This page is about the product itself.
Table of contents
- How common are dildos, really?
- Which dildo materials are actually body-safe?
- Does porous versus non-porous actually matter?
- What shapes exist, and what is each one for?
- What size should your first dildo be?
- Which lubricant works with which material?
- How do you choose your first dildo?
- What are the best dildos to start with in Dubai and the UAE?
- Frequently asked questions
How common are dildos, really?
Common enough that the question answers itself. In a US nationally representative survey of 2,056 women, 52.5% had used a vibrator; the companion survey put the male figure at 44.8% (Herbenick et al., Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2009). In Canada, 52.3% of respondents reported lifetime sex toy use in a 2017 survey (Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality). In Australia’s national survey, about one in five women had used a toy in the past year alone (Richters et al., Sexual Health, 2014, n=20,094).
Two honest caveats. First, every one of these figures comes from a Western sample, because no equivalent UAE or Gulf prevalence data exists. What transfers across borders isn’t the percentage; it’s the physiology underneath it. Second, the 2024 six-country study used an online panel funded by a retailer rather than a pure probability sample. It’s the largest dataset of its kind, and we treat it that way: indicative, not exact.
Across four national surveys in the US, UK, Canada, and Australia, sex toy ownership ranged from one in five adults in a single year to clear majorities over a lifetime. No Gulf prevalence data exists, but the studies agree on the transferable point: owning a toy is the norm, not the exception. (Hald et al., 2024; Herbenick et al., 2009)
Which dildo materials are actually body-safe?
“Body-safe” itself is a marketing phrase with no certifying body behind it. There is exactly one international standard for this product category, ISO 3533:2021, “Sex toys — Design and safety requirements for products in direct contact with genitalia, the anus, or both”, and compliance is entirely voluntary (ISO, 2021). It requires a restricted-substance list for anything touching mucosa, biocompatibility testing, and smooth, burr-free surfaces. Almost no listing tells you whether a product meets it. Verification falls to you, which means learning five material names.
Platinum-cured silicone: the default. Silicone is non-porous, inert, and can be sterilised outright. The curing method matters: platinum-cured (addition-cure) silicone leaves no chemical byproducts, which is why the medical and food industries use it; peroxide-cured silicone leaves residual byproducts that need post-curing to remove, according to industrial silicone manufacturers (Stockwell Elastomerics). Listings rarely name the cure, but “platinum silicone” is a claim worth paying a small premium for.
Borosilicate glass: the firm option. The same glass chemistry as lab equipment and good cookware. Its thermal expansion coefficient is roughly 3.3×10⁻⁶/K, about a third of ordinary soda-lime glass (~9×10⁻⁶/K), which is why it shrugs off temperature changes that would stress cheaper glass. Properly annealed borosilicate is non-porous, sterilisable, and effectively permanent. Inspect any glass toy for chips before use and retire it if you find one.
Stainless steel and ABS plastic. Both non-porous and body-safe. Steel is heavy and completely firm, a distinct sensation some people specifically want. ABS is the hard plastic of budget-friendly models; safe, though it can’t be boiled.
TPE/TPR: the compromise. Thermoplastic elastomers are usually phthalate-free but porous. You cannot sterilise a porous surface, which is a hygiene ceiling, not a dealbreaker for everyone.
Jelly and soft PVC: avoid at any price. This is where the regulator evidence lands. A Danish EPA survey of 16 randomly selected sex toys found phthalates in 10 of 15 tested products, one at 70.2% of the product’s total weight; migration testing measured DEHP leaching at 54.8 µg/cm²/hour when combined with an oil-based lubricant (Danish EPA, 2006).
A decade later, Sweden’s chemicals agency tested 44 toys on the market and still found three over the EU’s 0.1% DEHP limit and one containing short-chain chlorinated paraffins, suspected carcinogens (KEMI, 2017). The problem didn’t disappear; it just got quieter.
| Material | Porous? | Sterilisable? | Phthalate risk | Verdict |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Platinum-cured silicone | No | Yes, boil 3–5 min (no motor) | None inherent | Default choice |
| Borosilicate glass | No | Yes | None | Best firm option |
| Stainless steel | No | Yes | None | Heavy, fully firm |
| ABS plastic | No | Soap and water only | None inherent | Safe on a budget |
| TPE / TPR | Yes | No | Usually none, but can’t be sterilised | A compromise |
| Jelly / soft PVC | Yes | No | Documented by two regulators | Avoid |
Everything in our own dildos collection is silicone for exactly this reason. It’s the material we’d defend if a customer asked a chemist instead of a salesperson.
“Body-safe” is unregulated marketing language; the only real standard, ISO 3533:2021, is voluntary. The evidence-backed shortlist is platinum-cured silicone, borosilicate glass, stainless steel, and ABS: all non-porous and sterilisable. Danish and Swedish regulators found phthalates in a majority of tested soft toys, so jelly and soft PVC fail at any price. (Danish EPA, 2006; ISO, 2021)
Does porous versus non-porous actually matter?
It’s the difference between washing a toy and sterilising one, and one small study shows how wide that gap is. Researchers swabbed vibrator shafts for HPV DNA after use by twelve women with confirmed HPV. On the porous thermoplastic shaft, 89% of samples tested positive before cleaning, 56% immediately after cleaning, and 40% a full 24 hours later. On the non-porous silicone shaft, detection fell to 67%, then 44%, then zero (Anderson et al., Sexually Transmitted Infections, 2014).
Frame it honestly: twelve participants makes this a pilot, not a verdict. But the direction of the result matches the materials science, and there’s no counter-evidence. Porous surfaces shelter what soap can’t reach.
The practical protocol, per NHS guidance: wash with mild, fragrance-free soap and warm water after every use; dry completely before storage. Non-motorised silicone and glass can also be boiled for three to five minutes. And if a toy is ever shared, the NHS lists shared sex toys as a transmission route for trichomoniasis, chlamydia, herpes, and HPV: use a fresh condom on the toy and wash it between partners, every time.
In a 2014 pilot study, a porous TPE toy still tested positive for HPV DNA in 40% of samples 24 hours after cleaning, while a silicone toy tested completely clean at the same point. Non-porous materials can be sterilised; porous ones can only be washed. The NHS recommends soap and warm water after every use and a fresh condom on any shared toy. (Anderson et al., 2014)
What shapes exist, and what is each one for?
Shape is function. Strip away the marketing photography and there are six meaningful variations, each solving a different problem.
Straight and slim. The beginner default and the easiest to control. Nothing to learn, nothing to angle.
Curved. A gentle upward curve exists to reach the front vaginal wall, the G-spot area, or, for anal use, the prostate. If a listing says “G-spot dildo,” the curve is the entire claim.
Suction cup. A base that sticks to smooth surfaces for hands-free use, and doubles as the anchor point in most harnesses. The most versatile single feature you can buy.
Flared base. Non-negotiable for anal use. ISO 3533:2021 explicitly requires retention-preventing design for anal products, because a toy without a flared base can travel inward and require medical removal. No base, no anal use. That rule has no exceptions.
Strap-on and harness-compatible. A flared or suction base mounted in a wearable harness, for partner play in either direction. Ours, a remote-control silicone strap-on, is the model couples reorder.
Non-representational. Smooth, abstract shapes in soft colours that read as wellness objects rather than anatomy. In a shared home, this is a privacy feature as much as an aesthetic one, and it’s a category we stock deliberately.
One shape you’ll notice missing from our shelves: glass. Our range is silicone-first, so for glass we’d rather point you to the material science above than to a product we don’t carry.
What size should your first dildo be?
Smaller than the internet suggests, and here’s the reference point nobody gives you. The largest measurement review ever conducted, 15,521 men across 17 studies, put the average erect penis at 13.12 cm long and 11.66 cm in circumference, which works out to about 3.7 cm in diameter (Veale et al., BJU International, 2015).
Product photography skews large because large photographs well. Your first purchase should land at or below average: roughly 2.5–3.2 cm in diameter and 12–15 cm of insertable length.
The reasoning is mechanical. Girth is fixed, so you cannot use part of a circumference. Length is flexible, so you can always use part of a length. So for a first dildo for women, or for anyone new to insertion, the diameter is the number to get right, and the cost of overshooting it is a toy that lives in a drawer. If the first one works and you want more, sizing up later is a pleasant problem. Sizing down after a bad first purchase is just a wasted one.
The average erect penis measures 13.12 cm long and 11.66 cm around, from a review of 15,521 men. A first dildo should sit at or below that, about 2.5–3.2 cm in diameter, because girth can’t be adjusted after purchase while length can always be used partially. (Veale et al., 2015)
Which lubricant works with which material?
Water-based, by default, and there’s a measured reason beyond the usual compatibility warnings. The WHO’s specification for personal lubricants sets an ideal osmolality at or below 380 mOsm/kg, matching the body’s own 260–370, and a hard ceiling of 1,200. Most commercial lubricants tested run between 2,000 and 6,000, and hyperosmolar lubricants caused measurable epithelial damage in laboratory tissue (WHO/UNFPA specification, updated 2025; Dezzutti et al., 2012). A hyperosmolar lubricant pulls water out of the very tissue it’s meant to protect.
Two compatibility rules complete the picture. Silicone lubricant on a silicone toy is the combination every manufacturer and educator advises against, because it can tackify and pit the surface, though we’ll be honest that this rests on practitioner consensus rather than a peer-reviewed study.
Oil-based lubricants have a measured problem of their own: in the Danish EPA’s migration testing, an oil-based lubricant drove DEHP leaching up to 54.8 µg/cm²/hour, roughly a hundredfold increase. Oil also degrades latex condoms. Our water-based lubricant is the pairing we recommend with every silicone toy we sell, and it’s the pairing we’d recommend if we sold nothing at all.
How do you choose your first dildo?
Everything above collapses into five decisions, in order.
- Define the job first. Solo or partnered? Vaginal, anal, or both? Harness now or later? The answers eliminate most of the catalogue before you look at a single price. Anal plans mean a flared base, full stop.
- Lock the material. Platinum-cured silicone as the default; borosilicate glass or steel if you know you want firm. This is the one decision with regulator evidence behind it, and it’s already made for you above.
- Size at or below average. 2.5–3.2 cm in diameter, 12–15 cm insertable. Girth is the constraint; length is the flexibility.
- Pick exactly one feature. Suction cup for versatility, curve for the G-spot, non-representational shape for privacy. Beginners who buy three features at once learn nothing about what they actually like.
- Buy from someone who names the material and ships like it matters. A listing that won’t tell you what a toy is made of is telling you something. Plain, unbranded packaging isn’t a luxury in this region; here’s how discreet delivery actually works with us, step by step.
If you’re brand new to sex toys in general, our beginner’s guide to types and materials (linked at the end) zooms out to the whole category; this page assumes you’ve already picked your aisle.
What are the best dildos to start with in Dubai and the UAE?
Match the pick to the decisions you just made. Four picks from our own shelves, plus the full range, with the honest reason for each:
- Slim silicone dildo with suction cup: the beginner default. Modest girth, silicone throughout, and the suction base that makes it hands-free and harness-ready later.
- Realistic silicone dildo with suction cup: for anyone who knows they want a lifelike shape and feel, in the same body-safe material.
- Remote-control silicone strap-on: the couples pick. The remote is the feature people reorder for.
- Remote heating vibrating model: not a first purchase for most people, but the natural upgrade once you know you want vibration and warmth in the same toy.
- Full dildos collection: the whole silicone range, most of it under AED 220.
What do we actually see, as a Dubai-based shop? Returns cluster on one complaint: “bigger than expected.” The size section above exists because of those orders. The second pattern is quieter: customers who start with a slim suction-cup model reorder accessories and lube, not replacements, which is what a good first purchase looks like from our side. And non-representational designs outsell realistic ones among buyers who mention shared housing. Draw your own conclusions; we stock accordingly.
On delivery: packaging is plain and unbranded, COD is available if you’d rather not use a card, and same-day delivery covers most of Dubai. If this is your first order of any adult product, our first-time buyer’s checklist walks the whole process.
Frequently asked questions
What’s the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?
A vibrator has a motor; a dildo doesn’t. Dildos work through shape, size, and firmness alone: nothing to charge, nothing to break, and the material is the whole product. Vibrators add powered stimulation, which suits most bodies better for external use. Many people own one of each, and our vibrators guide covers that half of the decision.
Are glass dildos safe?
Yes, with two conditions: borosilicate glass, properly annealed, and an inspection habit. Borosilicate’s low thermal expansion is why it’s used in laboratories; it handles temperature changes that stress ordinary glass. Check for chips or cracks before every use, and retire the toy if you find any. Drop it on tile, and the inspection matters more than the drop.
How do you clean a dildo properly?
Mild, fragrance-free soap and warm water after every use, then dry completely before storage. Non-motorised silicone and glass can also be boiled for three to five minutes for a true sterilisation. Anything porous can only ever be washed, which is the short version of why we recommend non-porous materials in the first place.
Can I share a dildo with a partner?
Yes, with precautions the NHS is specific about: wash between partners and use a fresh condom on the toy each time it changes hands. Shared toys are a documented transmission route for trichomoniasis, chlamydia, herpes, and HPV, and the 24-hour HPV persistence found on porous materials in the Anderson pilot study is the reason material choice matters even more here.
What if it arrives and it’s too big?
Don’t force it: discomfort is information, not a challenge. Use it externally, pair it with plenty of water-based lubricant, and treat the girth as your calibration point for next time. This is the most common first-purchase mistake we see, and it’s exactly why the size rule is “at or below average,” not “whatever looked right in the photo.”
The short version
Five decisions carry this whole page:
- Material before everything. Platinum-cured silicone, borosilicate glass, or steel. Regulators found phthalates in a majority of soft toys tested; jelly and PVC fail at any price.
- Non-porous or nothing. A silicone toy tested completely clean 24 hours after washing; a porous one still carried HPV DNA in 40% of samples.
- Size at or below average. 2.5–3.2 cm diameter. You can’t use part of a circumference.
- One feature, not three. Suction cup, curve, or discretion; pick the one that matches the job.
- Water-based lubricant. The WHO’s osmolality ceiling is 1,200; most pharmacy lubricants blow past it several times over.
Owning a toy is the majority experience in every country that’s ever measured it. The only real question is whether yours is made of something you’d defend to a chemist. Now you know how to answer that, too.
Ready to choose? → Browse the dildos collection: all silicone, plain packaging, COD, same-day Dubai delivery. New to toys entirely? Start with our beginner’s guide to sex toys.
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